I remember the mirror in my parent’s bedroom. It was a few years older than me and one of the household items that moved with us every time we moved houses. It represented this grand artifact that kept reminding us of how far we have come.
I would always go to this mirror no matter how many times I looked at the one in my room. It was as if I needed the validation of this ancient mirror to approve of myself. Not just me, my siblings too. We were drawn to it.
Why do we always go to this mirror? I often asked. Does it make the other mirrors less of a reflector than this ancient one? Do we forget how we look when we step out of our rooms only to have this mirror assure us we are good enough to step out into the world?
Simple answer? It’s all about mindset.
Self-validation means recognizing and affirming your self-worth without relying on others’ endorsements. Strengthening your self-validation is a self-improvement strategy towards accepting and uplifting your true self.
Do you often find that you are constantly paying attention to someone else’s opinion of you? Letting what they think of you define who you are? Have you ever pondered on what you think of yourself? Do you ever think you are not enough? Or that you need someone’s validation or “say-so” before you can believe in yourself? Is there a person or symbol that is sort of like your “go-to” for approval?
Never measure your worth by people’s expectations.
The only person that has power over you is you.
The longing to have someone acknowledge or approve of you is human but the most important approval you need is yours. Life is about constantly re-creating yourself. Experience teaches and moulds you. You become more confident when you allow your thoughts to positively dispel any negative notion you may have developed about yourself. The good news is that the mind can be trained to be deliberately progressive by turning off negative thinking and replacing unpleasant thoughts with good affirmative words.
7 Affirmations That Will Strengthen Your Self-validation.
People will always form an opinion of you, however, what you think of yourself is more important than what they think. Say these 7 affirmations out loud to help strengthen your self-validation:
- My self-worth is more than my self-doubt.
- No one can make me feel less than I am except I allow them.
- I can do anything and everything I set my mind to do.
- As long as I am making progress, it is okay to make mistakes.
- I am allowed to start all over.
- I am enough.
- I am proud of all I have accomplished and will still accomplish.
Believing in yourself does not mean you will not go through moments of doubt, it simply means realizing that every challenge you face draws out an inner strength, making you stronger and more equipped for what lies ahead.
You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it.Dr. Robery Anthony
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